Everyone’s concerned with what they’ve got to give to get something that they want, and this goes for healing spiritual pain, as well.
I meet a lot of people through my healing practice who want to get out of pain but they don’t want to sacrifice anything.
Life, and healing, doesn’t work like that–there’s always a cost.
Healing spiritual pain, or any kind of pain for that matter, will require that we “pay” attention.
Fortunately our attention is a resource that’s abundantly available.
Our attention contains an enzyme of sorts that acts as a catalyst.
When we focus our attention on what our pain FEELS like in our bodies, our attention catalyzes the process of healing and integrating the energy that is bound up in our pain–speeds that process up and lubricates it.
Is it really possible to heal pain simply by focusing on it?
Well, first you have to understand what healing means.
The word heal comes from an Old English word which means “to make whole.”
Healing refers to the process of becoming “whole,” the process of integating our mind, body and soul.
The truth is that we’re already whole.
It’s just that we’ve kind of forgotten.
We have been taught, unconsciously, by life and the people around us, to push away or separate parts of ourselves that we’ve learned are not valid or safe to feel.
In the early stages of our development, while we are in the womb and during the first few years of life, our nervous systems are very malleable and sensitive to the nervous systems of those around us.
We’re like little sponges soaking up information from the world around us.
When we feel into those around us we sense that they have dishonored and and disconnected from parts of themselves.
Their spiritual sides are not being expressed through their physical bodies.
We naturally assume that this is how to be human.
Because we rely on those around us for our survival we instantly and unconsciously adopt the same way of being out of a perceived need to survive.
A key to forgetting that we’re whole is to remove our attention from the parts of us that we’e been led to believe by others are not safe.
Turning away from parts of ourselves in this way becomes a habit.
Life, on the other hand, is constantly trying to drive our unconscious parts to the surface of our awareness.
The resources that we use to keep our disowned and dishonored parts unconscious are resources that we don’t get to use for growing new cells, digesting food and turning it into fuel, fighting off germs and diseases that make us sick, and adapting to our environment.
Consequently just living on a day to day basis can become exhausting.
Life has a way of making us look at ourselves in the mirror.
To take a closer look at those parts of ourselves that we have thought of as inferior or defective to bring us together to reintegrate those parts.
Actually it’s unavoidable because we WILL run into people and situations that will cause us to reflect on those parts of ourselves.
The life-force energy associated with our disowned and dishonored parts might arise as joint pain, back pain, digestive issues, or some other type of pain, because pain is an excellent way to draw our attention.
That pain gets our attention and we are forced to focus on it.
And that is what dissolves that separation.
A lot of people I meet in the course of doing my work who are experiencing pain will say, “Oh, it’s got my attention, all right.”
Usually what that means, though, is that they’re wrapped up in the thoughts about the pain and in trying to figure out how to escape from it.
They’re seeing it as something that’s getting in the way of them living their lives the way they think they’re life should look.
But Life often has something in mind that’s much greater than what we can conceive of and pain is part of getting us to see that.
They may decide to ignore it or take some medication in an attempt to take the pain away.
If they succeed it’s usually only temporary.
When we push pain away it tends to push back.
Pain will likely come back as some other problem later on.
Maybe we suppress physical pain today, which shows up as an organic problem later, digestive issues or diabetes or high blood pressure, the list goes on and on.
Maybe we suppress an organic problem today only to end up with a psychological problem tomorrow, depression, anxiety or anger.
The disowned, suppressed part of ourselves and the energy associated with it will not just go away.
It will get bigger and louder until we have no choice but to listen and pay attention to it.
Here’s a video I made on the subject:
If you’d rather listen here’s a podcast version:
Paying attention means taking a good look at ourselves, focusing inward and allowing ourselves to feel those sensations and feelings that we have been trying to push away.
Giving ourselves permission to feel the feelings associated with pain catalyzes a reaction that integrates the life force energy that’s bound up in the pain.
Some people feel like they don’t know how to feel the sensations in their body.
When clients say that to me I ask them to close their eyes and ask them this question: Do you have a body?
They always answer yes.
I say, “How do you know you have a body?”
They know they have a body because they can feel it.
First there’s physical sensations.
There are only three kinds of sensations in the body.
Physical sensations can include the pressure of your bottom on the seat or the touch of your clothes on your skin.
Sensations are also caused by pain or tension or heat or cold or energy moving.
Then there are physiological sensations, those caused by your organs doing their thing: the feeling of your heart beating or the sensation of your breathing or your stomach gurgling or a full bladder.
And lastly emotions have a sensational quality in the body: anger might make you feel hot, fear might cause your chest or stomach to feel tight, grief might make you feel heavy (overburdened), joy might have an effervescent and uplifting quality.
In any given moment you should be able to feel at least one of either physical, physiological or emotional sensations in your body.
There’s a good chance that if you’re reading this it’s because you’re experiencing pain in your body or your being.
Take this opportunity to focus your attention on it.
What are the boundaries like? Are they clearly defined or fuzzy? Does it have shape or volume.
Is there pressure (either pushing out or pushing in or some combination of the two)? Is it expanding or collapsing?Is it vibrating or throbbing or stabbing?
Does it have color? Does it have texture? Does it feel like some material: plastic, gum, slime, etc? Does it feel like an element: fire, water, wood, earth, air, etc? Is it smooth or rough or wet. Does it have temperature?
Now let it all go.
Let yourself do whatever feels natural.
Give yourself a break for 5 to 10 minutes and then come back to it.
When you return to your focused attention does it feel different than the first time?
Is the pain less intense, or are the feelings associated with the pain different?
Any change, even if it’s gotten more intense, is still a change and that means that you are making progress towards resolving your pain.
This method of bearing down and then easing up is similar to how you might massage a knot loose.
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I’m curious to know your thoughts, and if you have any stories you’d like to share related to this topic.
I look forward to helping you express more life.
Yours in Healing,
I've been supporting people through the ups and downs of their healing journeys for almost two decades now, mostly delivering BioSoul Integration from my office in Louisville, Colorado. However, it's possible to receive BioSoul Integration at a distance, as well. I've worked with 90 year olds, day old babies and everyone in between. But those who seem to be most drawn to my work tend to be those who have felt the strong calling to consciously do the work of leaning into their growth and evolution as human beings. Often these people are practitioners themselves of some sort, whether professionally or otherwise. They may be yoga teachers, meditators, acupuncturists, chiropractors, energy workers, shamanic practitioners, healers, spiritual seekers and others, and they feel called to give their gifts and share what they’ve learned with others. Discovering our soul's gifts, embodying them and then serving others with them is where true life satisfaction lies. Life will keep nudging us in that direction, anyway. BioSoul Integration can help speed up the process and smooth out the rough spots created by our innocent and unconscious resistance. Take my BioSoul Integration Quiz to get started.
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