Parts Work: Transform Your Inner Conflict With Parts Work Meditation
The big realization when we go beyond the ego is simply seeing that we’ve always been ok.
Loch Kelly, author of Shift Into Freedom: The Science and Practice of Openhearted Awareness
The Journey Towards Personal Growth And Self-Discovery
Our journey toward personal growth and self-discovery is ongoing in life.
At the core of this journey is the process of recognizing, integrating and embodying various fragmented parts of ourselves, often overlooked yet essential for our forward progress.
Through Parts Work, we are introduced to a healing method that identifies and addresses our inner fragmentations, leading to a more authentic and unified self-experience.
We can use Parts Work-oriented mindfulness meditation to deeply and rapidly connect with and embody our inner parts.
This technique is particularly valuable for harmonizing our body, mind, and spirit, so we become more aware of our soul’s gifts and more able to express those gifts in the world.
Overview of Parts Work
Therapeutic Technique and Personal Growth Tool
During the more than two decades doing intuitive embodiment work at the BioSoul Integration Center, I discovered the fact that a lot of our problems are caused by these seperated parts of our personality that are all vying for attention.
It turns out that this concept and a method for addressing it was already a thing, called Parts Work.
Let’s take a look at how we get fragmented in the first place.
Understanding Fragmentation
Here’s a video I made explaining parts work, including a guided parts work meditation to intgrate negative emotions and anchor your awareness in your authentic self:
And if you’d rather listen you can do so below, and you can find the BioSoul Integration Podcast and this episode wherever you listen to your audio podcasts:
Origins In The Womb And In Childhood
Those in the therapy world often talk about the trauma that we encounter as children as the source of the fragmentation that occurs in our body and being.
But it actually starts before we’re born.
While we’re in the womb, the foundational layer of our nervous system, what I call the primal brain, is compelled to tune itself to the emotional and energetic fields of the people and culture around us.
This tuning process begins as early as two to four weeks after conception, when the primal brain comes online.
This tuning happens through the process of entrainment with the energetic field around us.
And through entrainment we automatically and innocently sense and adopt the emotional constraints and biases of the people and cultures we’re conceived into.
Like those before us have done, we judge parts of ourselves as good and parts as bad and we create survival programs in our nervous system to support those biases.
This early shaping is key, as it sets the stage for how we engage with ourselves and the world moving forward and the problems we face as a result.
Consequences Of Creating Separate Parts In Ourselves
The fragmentation that starts in the womb and continues when we’re kids manifests itself in varied, often challenging ways that can affect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Let’s look at how these patterns of self-separation can surface across different facets of our lives:
- Physical Ailments: The survival programs in our nervous system use muscle tension to sequester the energy related to parts of ourselves that are deemed unsafe to feel, which can result in postural distortions like scoliosis, chronic pain or dysfunction of organ systems.
- Emotional Distress: A survival program designed to keep us from expressing parts of ourselves works by limiting the range and depth of certain natural emotions, which can lead to depression and anxiety.
- Behavioral Patterns: Attempting to evade certain feelings may lead to the avoidance of the life events that trigger these feelings, such as romantic relationships, career pursuits, and the like, which could consequently foster tendencies toward procrastination or the development of addictive behaviors.
Ultimately the inner conflict caused by the fact that we’re not functioning as a whole have an affect on our spiritual well-being, that is our ability to share our gifts with our fellow humans and feel the satisfaction of doing so.
Life Purpose and Soul’s Essence
The Holographic Nature Of Life
There’s a way in which the separation that we feel in the people and the world around us goes against the nature of Nature.
We are continually being pulled into wholeness by the greater wholeness that exists in the Universe.
Let’s take a hologram as an example.
A hologram is a piece of film that can project an image.
If we were to cut the hologram in half, it would still be able to project the whole image, except there would be slightly less resolution to that image.
Likewise, we are holograms of the Universe.
We have in us everything we need to be complete.
The wholness of the Universe that we’re subject to through our experience of the Universe constantly nudges toward integrating the fragmentation in us.
Everything we encounter in life is designed to get us to feel more so that we can come into relationship with the parts of us that we’ve been pushing away.
When we can do that we tend to become aware of our soul’s gifts and feel compelled to give them.
Meditation Guide
The following is a guided meditation technique that I learned from a long time Parts Work therapist and mindfulness meditation teacher named Loch Kelly. His website and an app where you can access these short meditations, he calls glimpses, can be found at www.LochKelly.org.
Step-by-Step Meditation:
- Find a quiet space where we will not be disturbed.
- Sit or lie down in a comfortable position.
- Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth.
- Begin by bringing awareness to the sensations created by a pain or challenging emotion in your body.
- Feel that pain or emotion as completely as possible.
- Now say, “I am afraid (use whatever emotion you feel here in place of afraid. I’ll continue to use fear as an example).
- Notice the effect.
- Now say, “I feel fear.”
- Again, notice the effect.
- Now say, “I am aware of feeling fear.”
- Once more, spend a few minutes noticing the effect of that.
- Now say, “I am aware of a part of me that is feeling fear.”
- Notice the effect of that.
- Now say, “I am aware of a part of me that is both beyond the fear and interprenetrates it.”
- Notice the effect.
- Now say, “Fear is welcome.”
Advantages of This Technique:
- Quick to implement, taking only a few minutes of our day.
- Does not require extensive meditation practice to feel the effects.
- Encourages profound shifts in our perception of ourselves.
Additional Resources
As we reach the conclusion of our exploration into the transformative world of parts work, I invite you to continue your journey of healing and self-discovery with my book, If It Didn’t Hurt: How To Resolve Your Pain and Discover Your Life Purpose.
Click the link to purchase the book or read the first chapter instantly for free.
Many forms of pain stem from an internal conflict between disparate parts.
In If It Didn’t Hurt, you’ll discover a compassionate guide that sheds light on the complex nature of your psyche.
It provides practical steps to engage with and harmonize the various parts of yourself, helping you overcome inner conflict and embrace a life of fulfillment and meaning.
Whether you are new to the concept of parts work or seeking to deepen your existing practice, this book is a valuable resource that will support you in fostering a compassionate relationship with yourself and unlocking the potential within your pain and challenging emotional states.
I look forward to helping you express more life,
Dr. Jay
About the Author Dr. Jay Uecker
Dr. Jay is the founder and owner of BioSoul Integration Center in Louisville, Colorado. He’s a chiropractor, a hands-on healer, an in-person and online soul integration coach and the author of If It Didn't Hurt: How To Resolve Your Pain And Discover Your Life Purpose. For two decades Dr. Jay has been helping people navigate their healing journeys. Over the course of that time he’s worked intimately with thousands of people. Those who are most drawn to Dr. Jay's work are those who are seeking to integrate and embody their soul's essence and their soul's gifts so they can share them with others. Life will keep nudging us in that direction, anyway. BioSoul Integration helps to speed up the process and smooth out the rough spots created by the innocent and unconscious resistance that lives in our primal brain and nervous system. Click the link to get your Personalized BioSoul Integration Guide.
