Do you feel stuck in a particular area of your life?
Is there a relationship that is no longer serving you?
Or is there something that you’ve been repressing or avoiding?
As human beings, we’ve all experienced pain, stagnation, and stress that we wish we could overcome but aren’t quite sure exactly how or where to begin.
In this blog post, I’ll help you understand that the path to transforming your life for the better is to open yourself up to a part of the path to embodied spirituality that is naturally happening to everyone.
For the past 20 years, I’ve been combining the groundbreaking chiropractic modality created by Donald Epstein, with the consciousness awakening power of mindfulness awareness practices and deep levels of presence to form my own technique, known as BioSoul Integration.
My mission has always been to help my patients create an ever-deepening connection with their minds and bodies, empowering them to connect with their soul’s gifts so that they can be shared with the world.
And while everyone’s spiritual awakening journey is unique, there are common themes that show up across all paths.
You can think of the path in your own healing journey as a map, with different benchmarks along the road that can help you in tracking your own progress.
Donald Epstein wrote a book called, The 12 Stages of Healing: A Network Approach to Wholeness, and I tend to reference his work a lot in my own practice.
Today, I’m going to specifically talk about the stages that he has defined as Stages 6, 7, and 8, which are major turning points on the path to embodying our soul’s essence.
In order to understand the different phases of the healing process, it helps to think in terms of seasons.
For instance, springtime is the season for new beginnings, when plants come out of hibernation and when new seeds can be planted.
Summer is when the days are the longest and the temperature is the warmest.
It is the most ample time for growth.
Autumn is a time for harvesting, when temperatures begin to drop and days begin to shorten.
Winter is a time for rest and hibernation.
If you are a gardener and wait to plant seeds until fall or winter, you’re not going to achieve nearly the same results as if you were to plant seeds during springtime.
The same thing goes if you were to attempt to do things out of season during the healing process.
If you’re trying to be active and force things to happen in your life while you’re supposed to be resting, the results are not going to be as fruitful as you’d probably like.
Likewise, if you’re in a state of stagnation and rest while you’re supposed to be taking action, it is likely to create pain and suffering in your life.
That’s why it is important be present and aware during the cyclical nature of your own healing process and be attentive to the season and the stage of the healing process that you’re in.
Stages 6, 7 and 8 happen during a particular season along the path to spiritual embodiment.
During the steps leading up to Stage 6, we have been developing an awareness around our pain, as well as a desire to reclaim our power and transform that pain and discomfort into something new.
It is now that we find ourselves in a state of preparation, where the pressure is beginning to build around whatever is no longer serving us.
It is important to remember that this stage can sometimes be quite uncomfortable and even painful.
However, it can also be exciting as we anticipate the new possibilities that will come with healing and recovery. If we can stay present to it and allow it to develop, we can trust that this stage will naturally help us move onto the next stage, like a wave that rises and allows a surfer to carry us forward.
Think about a time when you’ve come down with a bad stomach virus or food poisoning.
It’s not usually an instantaneous reaction and we don’t usually notice it right away.
However, over the span of several hours, there is a pressure that begins to build in your stomach and you begin to feel more and more nauseous, along with other possible symptoms like fever, cold sweats, or body aches.
We may have the desire to mask our symptoms or make the discomfort go away, but it is important recognize that this is our body’s way of letting us know that there is something inside of us that needs to come out.
This can be likened to the emotional pressure that builds during this stage of our own healing journey.
Vomiting isn’t typically something that feels good in the moment, but in order for our body to rid itself of toxins, it has to happen.
Sometimes, we may even need to gag ourselves in order to trigger ourselves to throw up.
However, once we throw up, there is usually an immediate feeling of relief.
This can be likened to this stage in our own healing process, when we are finally able to let go of something that is no longer serving us.
When you have thrown up, you have typically expelled all of the contents in your stomach, leaving it completely empty.
You might feel tired and vulnerable, but as you recuperate, you begin to feel hungry again.
Usually, you’ll want to slowly reintroduce food and liquid that is less likely to upset your stomach as it is recovering.
During this stage of the healing process when it comes to energy and emotion, you might feel drained, or even lonely.
This is a natural sensation, since the thing what was once occupying space is no longer there.
However, this can also be a time of great possibility, satisfaction, relief, and inner peace.
When we can be present to the initial emptiness, we can enter into a state of gratitude and realignment.
We can open ourselves up to what we wish to have in this space instead of what was there before.
This cycle of expanding and releasing is all around us.
We’ve talked about the cyclical seasons in nature and what happens when we become sick to our stomach, but there are many other examples of these stages that can be found in our bodies, lives, and in nature.
Here are a few additional examples of the manifestation, healing, and transformation that mirrors these stages.
One of the reason that we watch movies is that they mirror the natural, archetypal patterns of our human evolution.
We relate to the healing process and the spiritual journey that we encounter in the lives of the characters in the movies we love.
An example of the stages of the healing process that I’ve been talking about can be found in the movie Contact with Jodie Foster.
The movie is based on a book of the same name by Carl Sagan.
In the movie Contact, the possibility of life on other planets compels Jodie Foster’s character to listen to the signals coming from space.
One day she picks up a signal that seems really interesting, which turns out to contain the instructions for building a device of some sort.
Scientists build the device and she is chosen to test it out.
As the device starts up these huge arms begin to spin and a massive amount of light and energy is released.
As Jodie Foster’s character is waiting inside a capsule she loses radio contact with the control tower.
The energy builds and builds and everything starts to vibrate.
Jodie Foster’s characters just keeps confirming into her microphone that she’s “ready.”
This is similar to what happens in stage 6 of the process we’ve been talking about.
We may start to have a sense that we are ready for whatever lays ahead.
Once the pressure of impending change builds to a certain level we are able to let go of control and we enter a sort of wormhole, in stage 7, in which life takes control of the process.
Likewise they drop Foster’s character into the mass of swirling energy.
And suddenly she is whisked through space in a series of wormholes.
On the other side of the stage 7 wormhole, having discharged our old relationship to ourselves and the world, we encounter emptiness… space, ie. stage 8.
Likewise, when Foster’s character reaches the end of the wormhole she finds herself in an expansive world where she is given a message of hope for humanity.
She gets sent back, obviously, with her internal and external reality completely transformed.
Recently, I had the privilege of witnessing a client of mine achieve a major transformation in her life.
For a long time, she had been feeling very stuck and always felt a lot of anxiety around the holidays.
Through the work that we did together, she was able shed some light on the abuse that she experienced during her childhood from her own father.
With the holidays approaching, she could feel the pressure building.
Normally, she would have continued to pretend that everything was okay, going home for the holidays even with all of the unacknowledged pain in the background.
However, this year was different for her and she was ready to release all of that baggage that had been holding her back for all of these years.
She decided to make a personal choice to do not go home for the holidays this year.
It was a difficult decision, but it also came with a feeling of release, peace, and new possibilities and she reclaimed her own power.
Upon spending more time at home she decided to move some furniture.
She got rid of an old bookshelf that she hadn’t really been using.
She noticed that it created a space on her wall. She decided to put a picture up in that space that was an anchor for the empowered person she was becoming.
Almost immediately after this, an amazing thing happened, that seemed to mirror this stage 6, 7 and 8 theme in her life.
For several years, she had a neighbor in her apartment building that always gave her a creepy vibe.
Right after she told her family that she wouldn’t be going home for the holidays this year, her neighbor also moved out.
It turns out that he had been living in extreme filth, with dog poop caked into the carpet and garbage piled high to the ceiling.
Finally, the dark and heavy energy that was stuck in the apartment directly next to hers was finally released, and she began to find a greater peace in her home.
This client success story is a great example of how life is a mirror and the chain reaction that can occur when we allow one aspect of our lives to flow through the natural stages of the healing process.
It is much like a domino effect, where other aspects that may seem to be completely unrelated can be triggered into motion as well.
Stages 6, 7, and 8 may not always be comfortable, but if we can stay present and remain open to the bigger picture of the process, it will unhook us from our old way of being, allowing us to develop a new relationship with our authentic selves.
Just like Jodie Foster’s character in Contact, it is like entering a wormhole.
We may not know exactly what is there on the other side, but when the feeling of stagnation becomes greater than the fear of the unknown, we can allow life to nudge us forward, freeing up the resources needed for our own personal transformation.
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The point in all this is that we may ask for something: a certain amount of money a year, to meet the man or the woman of our dreams, etc…
When we ask in earnest for something, life goes about making that happen.
It’s just that we’re going to need to become the person who is capable of receiving what we’ve asked for.
The journey to becoming that person is definitely a process that will require that we feel more and that we give up control.
We’re going to need to become someone else internally before we can receive the things we asked for externally.
Stages 6, 7 and 8 are the steps that will take us there when we’re ready.
If you are interested in learning more about these stages of the healing process, check out my BioSoul Integration Guide to help you locate yourself on the healing journey landscape.
It may be that the stages of the process we discussed in this article don’t really resonate at the moment.
If so, it’s because you’re not in those stages.
To find out where you are on the healing journey click the following link, answer one question and receive a multi-page pad outlining exactly where you are on the map: https://www.biosoulintegration.com/biosoul-integration-quiz
Please feel free to ask any questions or make comments below.
I promise to follow up with you.
I look forward to helping you express more life,
Dr. Jay is the founder and owner of BioSoul Integration Center in Louisville, Colorado. He’s a chiropractor, a hands-on healer, an in-person and online soul integration coach and the author of If It Didn't Hurt: How To Resolve Your Pain And Discover Your Life Purpose. For two decades Dr. Jay has been helping people navigate their healing journeys. Over the course of that time he’s worked intimately with thousands of people. Those who are most drawn to Dr. Jay's work are those who are seeking to integrate and embody their soul's essence and their soul's gifts so they can share them with others. Life will keep nudging us in that direction, anyway. BioSoul Integration helps to speed up the process and smooth out the rough spots created by the innocent and unconscious resistance that lives in our primal brain and nervous system. Click the link to get your Personalized BioSoul Integration Guide.
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